
i want to write an entry about prop 8. and about amendment 2. and about the other bullshit anti-equality bans that were passed in arizona and arkansas.
but i can't do it. i'm too sad about it. all it would amount to is a bunch of me being naive, i guess, and just not understanding it.
prop 8 hurts the worst, i think, because it's not just refusing to grant a right (which frankly, shouldn't even be up for discussion, as far as i'm concerned, and why the public at large gets a say in this is fucking beyond me), but it's taking away a right that was given. a right to love, and family, and equality. a right that was celebrated, and cherished, and exercised. and that people stood there and said no, let's take it away? just. i honestly have no words. i told you i can't write an entry about it.
i've been in a heterosexual relationship for five years. we've never even talked about getting married, much to my mother's dismay. i'm not saying that we never will. if he asked, i'd say yes, i think. but the fact that he and i could easily go "eh, fuck it, let's get married" while other couples across the country want so desperately to make that commitment, to stand up together and say "yes, you and i, forever," are forbidden to do so? it blows my mind. and it breaks my heart.
i'm so happy that we elected barack obama as president. honestly, i don't care that he's black one way or the other, and the reasons i wanted him to be elected had everything to do with the man himself and nothing at all to do with the color of his skin. however, i absolutely, fully appreciate that this is a watershed moment for our country, and i'm thrilled, make no mistake. progress is a beautiful thing; we had friends over last night who got married in september, and after the election was called, she said "our kids will grow up with a black president." and we all beamed because it means something so much bigger than that about the america, and about the world, in which their children will grow up.
and it's amazing, and it's progress, and it's a wonderful beginning.
but i want their kids to grow up with equality for all, black, white, asian, hispanic, blue state, red state, christian, muslim, jew, gay, straight...all americans. all of them. anything less is unacceptable. and i know we'll get there; while i hope it's sooner than later, i truly believe it'll happen eventually. to quote our next president, "yes, we can." and we will.
to all of my friends who are hurting today, gay, straight, or otherwise: i love you. ♥